Loyalty is still the same, whether it win or lose the game; true as a dial to the sun, although it be not shined upon. – Samuel Butler
Enneagram Type Sixes are loyal to a fault while at the same time being the most suspicious of all the Enneagram Types. They have trouble trusting others and yet need constant validation from those around them.
The first thing to know about any Enneagram type is their basic fear and basic desire since that is the core of the Enneagram theory.
Basic Fear: Of not having support and guidance
Basic Desire: To have security and guidance
Overview of Type Six
Type Six is the most loyal of all the Enneagram types. They are loyal to their family, to their friends, and to their beliefs. They tend to be the kind of people who ‘go down with their ships,’ rather than deserting what they believe in, however, misfounded that belief may be. Type Sixes are suspicious and slow to trust others, but once they do decide to trust someone they are not going to give up that trust without a fight.
They want to be safe. They try to be prepared for whatever might happen. They also want to avoid conflicts whenever possible. This means that Type Sixes spend quite a bit of their lives worrying about something or someone or even just worrying in general. They tend to have trouble trusting their own judgement, so that is, at least, part of their difficulties. They want to be prepared for the worst possible scenario.
Type Sixes also are very trustworthy. Once they say they will do something they will do it or die trying (maybe a bit dramatic, but you get what I mean). They tend to follow the rules, but this is not always the case some Type Sixes are loyal to an ideal that is against that law, or laws. However, Type Sixes are very dutiful and will get things done.
Type Six with a Wing-Five
Type Six with a Five Wing is known as the Defender.
With this wing they tend to analyze everything putting it into perspective. Sometimes this does help them to be less worried, but often it just makes it worse.
They also tend to be more confident in who they are, and are more willing to trust their own judgement. However this does not change their dislike of conflict, in fact, they are even more likely to step back from it.
Type Six with a Wing-Seven
Type Six with a Seven Wing is known as the Buddy.
They tend to be more optimistic, less inclined to imagine the worse, and more likely to trust others. They are more lighthearted and extroverted; they tend to be more fun to be around.
They are also very adverse to conflict. They fear to cause emotional pain, and also fear that they themselves will experience it.
Type Six in Growth and Stress
When Type Sixes are stressed they act more like unhealthy Type Threes becoming arrogant and competitive which is completely unlike their normal dutiful attitude towards life.
When Type Sixes are growing they tend to act more like healthy Type Nines. They become more confident in who they are, more relaxed, and more optimistic.
People and Characters who are Type Sixes
Even people who have the same personality type are different. Each person is different. However, it can be hard to see that difference when one is reading about a personality type from any theory. That is why I have found it to be helpful to look at different people and characters who have that particular personality type. Knowing this is what really helps me to understand a personality type. So here are some people and characters who are Enneagram Type Sixes.
Real Life Type Sixes Include:
George H.W. Bush
Diana, Princess of Wales
Robert F. Kennedy
Fictional Type Sixes Include:
Bilbo Baggins (The Hobbit)
Eleanor Dashwood (Sense and Sensibility)
Marilla Cuthbert (Anne of Green Gables)
Narcissa Malfoy (Harry Potter)
Thorin Oakinshield (The Hobbit)
Knowing personality types is a way to get to know yourself and those around you better. It is a way to make your characters more realistic. I hope that this will help you to accomplish those things and more. If you want to know more about the Enneagram theory, I wrote about it a little while ago, here is a link if you’re interested: Characters Need to be Human. Also if you want to find out what your Enneagram Type is, here’s a link: Ennagram Test. It’s free and I’ve found it to be accurate.