Helping others is the way we help ourselves. – Oprah Winfrey
Enneagram Type Twos are the helpers. They always want to be helping others in any way.
At the heart of the Enneagram types is a basic fear and a basic desire. So before we start going through the rest of this personality type it is important to know what those are.
Basic Fear: Of being unwanted, unworthy of love
Basic Desire: To feel loved
Overview of Type Two
Type Twos need to be needed. They spend most of their time helping others. They do appear to be totally selfless, but they need to be appreciated. They tend to be the ‘mom friends.’
They are good with people, and are warm friendly individuals. They are the ones who remember their friends and their coworkers’ birthdays and go out of their way to make sure that that person knows that they are appreciated.
When they feel that they should they are likely put their own ambitions aside to help another. They tend to be very self sacrificing.
Type Twos want to be appreciated by others more than anything else and will go out of their way to make that happen even though they may not realize it.
Type Two with a One-Wing
Type Twos with a Wing One are called the Servant.
When a Type Two has a One-Wing they are more likely to be helping someone because they feel that they should than because they like that person.
Having a One-Wing gives them more discipline in what they do, and they are even less likely than they normally would be to bend the rules.
Type Two with a Three-Wing
Type Two with a Three-Wing is sometimes called the Host/Hostess.
Type Two wing Threes tend to be more confident in who they are and are less likely to need other people’s validation.
They tend to be better at adapting to different situations than the Type Two wing One is.
Also they are good team players bringing a fun, kind presence onto the team.
Type Two in Growth and Stress
When Type Twos become stressed they tend to act more like Type Eights. They become more dominate and feel the need to take control of every situation.
When Type Twos are ‘growing’ they tend to act like healthy Type Fours. They become more comfortable with who they are. They tend to be more aware of the needs of those around them.
People and Characters who are Type Twos
Knowing people and characters who have this Enneagram type helps to understand this it better. Looking at people and characters who have this personality type is always one of the first things that I do when I am trying to learn more about a personality type.
Real Life Type Twos Include:
Pope John XXII
Fictional Type Twos Include:
Samwise Gamgee (Lord of the Rings)
Rubeus Hagrid (Harry Potter)
Peeta Mellark (The Hunger Games)
Christine Palmer (Doctor Strange)
Molly Weasley (Harry Potter)
Emma Woodhouse (Emma)
I hope that this has helped you to understand Enneagram Type Two. If you are interested in more of an overview of what Enneagram personality theory is here is a link to the post I wrote on that: Characters Need to be Human. Also if you want to find out what your Enneagram type is here is a free test that I have found is fairly accurate: Enneagram Test.